I honestly don’t know exactly what it was, but it just seemed like ‘good manners’ to teach her to share… even though it sucked. It sucked because my girl is very sweet and gentle (no biased, just honest), and it seemed wrong to validate the behavior of a kid who’d come over and snatch a toy. It never sat right with me. In saying that, I kept doing it because it’s just ‘what you do’. Recently, however, a mother with an online presence has come out and explained why she doesn’t force her son to share toys. It’s a seriously great read.
She started like this:
The reaction was expected…
She’s right, as adults, that’s not the way it works.
Possession and ownership is important.
Sharing with his friend he knows and trusts.
People reacted really favorably:
So true! YES!